:: Dear Devukha... ::

Slept really badly after long and involved conversation with GawainJ about why he seems to be having mixed success with the ladies. Typical comments from him - with my responses:

"I just don't understand why girls won't say what they mean."
— Perhaps you don't understand what they mean when they say something.

"I want to have a relationship where we see each other for sex from time to time, but nothing too serious"
— Not many girls are happy with the Carrie Bradshaw-style fuck-buddy scenario - especially if the man is entirely in control of it.

"Things were different with xxxx. I really fancied her, thought about her all the time, saw her non-stop for three days and showered her with gifts. Then when I came back after 3 days' touring in Vienna, she said she didn't want to see me any more."
— Maybe you came on too strong and scared the shit out of her...

I think you get the picture. Are my responses fair? I don't know, but I'm not too comfortable with being an agony uncle (particularly when it all seems so straightforward - has GawainJ never realised what went wrong before? Or ever questioned his actions in previous situations?).

Disgruntled I went off to bed to read Russia and the Russians, couldn't get to sleep for ages and woke up with a very stiff neck. The bathroom was in constant use from when I got up till the point where I had to leave, so i didn't even get a chance to wash (thank god I keep my toothbrush in a toilet bag in my room).

Perhaps a b3ta pic will make everything feel better...

And last minute news. Another of my friends has got engaged... what is going on? I've only just been to Little Timmy and PD's wedding. Think I'm going to start rationing "wedded bliss" to one couple a year. Anyone else will have to be exterminated.